PCOS Blog Post: Build a Bridge and Get Over It

I hate fighting and unnecessary conflict. It's a waste of time and energy. It shows the immaturity of people along with their feelings towards others. Holding grudges is a complete waste of time, it's toxic. It creates stress, so needless to say a woman with PCOS doesn't need any additional stress.

Can't your energy and your resources be put to better use?

I was watching two of my students during math, at the back table fighting over counting blocks.

"No, the red ones are mine."

The other student quickly replied, "No, those are mine."

"You can't have ALL the blocks. I won't be able to count."

"Yes, I can."

At this moment I considered saying something, but I held back. I really believe in letting my students navigate conflicts with each other; on their own through trail and error, as long as its not getting physical. If I step in every time their was a minor conflict in my classroom; I would never get any teaching done, but also I wouldn't be giving them the skills necessary to resolve issues on their own.

"Well, if you take all the blocks. I will leave and teacher said we had to do it together."

"OK, I'm sorry, we can both have three colors each."

My first graders build more bridges over problems everyday than many adults. They don't hold onto the past. They work through issues before it evolves into a more complicated one. Dilemmas occur within ourselves and in our relationships. You may be holding onto a certain issue from months ago or a minor disagreement might happen today. However, if you wait, if it snowballs, it may lead to a larger problem. Why? Why waste your time and energy?

My advice build a bridge and get over it. It takes work, but all great things in life take work. I do my best not to create unnecessary issues with others, it's a conscience decision, it's also something I have to work hard at. By putting energy into resolving issues, I am a happier person, therefore, I don't carry those burdens around with me. Carrying burdens around with you becomes toxin both physically and emotionally.

So, if this has you thinking about an issue in your life that needs attention. Take the time, make that phone call, send that e-mail. You'll feel better for reaching out. Not to mention, it just may get untangled!

You're a woman, I know you can do it!

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